An
attractive, nice girl is
a sensitive subject: She
needs to be approached with
a little finesse. Usually
nice girls are the shy ones,
and if you're an outgoing
male with elements of style,
a nice girl is probably
going to put up a wall if
she thinks that you're a
typical male who's more
interested in sex than anything
else. So to get in on her,
you need to come through
her psychological back door.
The following technique,
although scene specific,
actually paints a good picture
if you look at it as it
applies to the whole. Bottomline,
this is a technique to bring
down a woman's walls.
The first time that you
meet a girl (through friends
or co-workers, for example)
realize that you'll more
than likely see her again
at some point. So on this
first meeting exercise some
self-control and put the
dog inside you in check.
Control your eyes, control
your posture - be professional
- don't appear to be thinking
of her in any way that's
sexual. You're only talking
to her because the two of
you have mutual friends
and it's the courteous thing
to do. Don't spend too much
time with her and don't
ask for her phone number.
(If she asks for yours,
great.) Do remember
her name and something about
herself that she may have
mentioned or that you picked
up on.
You'll
score some bonus points
with the girl if a period
of more than a few days
has gone by and you're able
to remember her name. Keep
in mind that this is a nice
girl. What do we know about
nice girls? They're usually
in college or out of college,
they don't drink much and
they usually don't smoke,
and when they were younger
they may have been into
reading romance novels.
If you remember her name
after only meeting her once,
there's a good chance that
she'll be mildly impressed.
She's interested in a guy
that can score points with
her.
On
this second meeting it's
still important to be professional,
but talk with her a while
longer than you did the
first meeting. Give her
a little more attention.
To avoid giving her the
impression that you're full
of yourself (like we all
are), let her do most of
the talking. ( * this is
another true player technique,
which has been discussed
in both The Seven Elements
of Charisma and MEMOIRS
OF A PLAYER.)
So in this second meeting,
don't talk to her for too
long, or give her too much
attention, because she may
expect you to ask for her
phone number (which will
make you look like a gimp
when you don't). It's still
too early.
This
time when you see her, don't
even hesitate. Suprise her
with a friendly hug. A professional
hug. Definitely know her
name. Definitely remember
something about the last
conversation the two of
you had. Compliment her
as if complimenting an old
friend. In other words,
don't be smooth and seductive:
be cool and at ease. You
can tell her now that she
"looks good" without it
seeming like a pick-up line.
If she returns the compliment,
YOU'RE IN.
Patience pays off. This
girl more than likely has
an untapped sexual side.
Like women that are scandalous,
she's also got her hot spots,
it's just that she may not
be aware of them - or she
may be aware of them, but
she's waiting for the right
guy to bring them out. In
her mind the right guy is
a guy that is interested
in her for who she is as
a person, and not because
she's got a great body that
would be mad sex.
Throughout this three step
process you're breaking
down her walls, and once
you've got her walls down
it's up to you to then guide
her in the direction you
want to go. If this is your
typical nice girl, she's
probably got at least some
elements of shyness to her.
If you're going to ask her
on a date you need to motivate
her with some simple actions.
For example, an effective
way to ask for a girl's
phone number (and at the
same time break off the
conversation) is to say
something like, "I have
to be somewhere in a little
while - we should talk on
the phone sometime." Immediately
pay attention to her body
language - if she looks
interested and gives you
a positive vibe, ask for
her phone number. But if
she looks bored and you
think that she's only agreeing
because it's the courteous
thing to do, then don't.
Let's back-track
for a moment: If you know
that you're definitely going
to come into contact with
this girl again, it's actually
better at this point to
lead her on by saying, "We
should talk on the phone
sometime," and then don't
ask for her phone number.
This is a basic move in
the art of seduction, which
is usually accomplished
by acting interested in
a person, and then throwing
them off the scent by not
acting interested. Then
act interested. Then again
act not so interested. In
seduction, you are evoking
the same emotional processes
in a nice girl that you
bring out in a scandalous
ho when you play hard to
get (which is a form of
seduction). You're creating
a psychological state of
"mystery" and "challenge"
- both of which women are
known to be attracted to.
Keep that in mind.
